Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Why Working Parents Hate Life

What sucks more, parenting or work?

I posted this reaction to the reactions to the big controversial New York article everybody's been talking about on Daddy Dialectic.  Check it out, yo.   


  1. I was a stay at home dad with our oldest.

    Now I have 3 and work full-time while my wife stays home.

    I would like to spend more time with my kids, as I feel I have missed out with the last 2 on stuff I shared with the first one.

    BUT, I don't think I would want to go back to staying at home all day with all 3 of them. My wife works her ass off. Way harder than me. The difference between 3 and 2 is like the difference between 1 and none.

  2. I just went back to work full time. I worked from home for the last 3.5 years.

    It is easier to handle the work and the parenting when they're separate, and the work is harder being home.

    Still, I really miss my babes. That's what sucks.

  3. I would have to say parenting. But I don't have kids so I am gonna go with working.

    Wait. Can I even qualify to answer this?

  4. I'm with Jules. I'd love to weigh in, but being childless, I feel my opinion would not count. Although, as a teacher, I wonder if it would, because, as a teacher, isn't my job more or less parenting? So does that make me overqualified to answer this? Now I'm confused.

    I vote for vacation. No kids and no work. Problem solved (for me).

  5. work. completely.

  6. I really liked your article.

    I never wanted kids and I've always known I'm just not made for it like some are. But now I have my daughter and, even though I love her more than anything, I'm still the same person I was before. I don't want any more kids and sometimes I think I have to work harder at this parenting thing than others because it doesn't come naturally to me. As my mother says, "You're just not a natural nurturer."

    And truthfully I'd love to stay home...but I just can't. I sometimes hate to work, but after a whole weekend of nonstop parenting, I'm ready for her to go back to daycare and ready to go back to the office.

    I know some might think that sounds terrible, but I honestly believe that if we didn't have our scheduled time apart, I'd be even worse at this parenting gig than I already am.

  7. lack of boundaries. The kids were too young to understand "Mommy needs to do work" and my bosses and husband were too whatever to understand "No, when the kids go to bed at night, SO DO I." I had no magical energy reserve that meant I could stay up another eight hours working after the kids went to bed.

  8. The above was the back half of my comment. The front half basically said "Commuting to an office was hard, but my kids could speak by then, so it was neat that they did something all day and I did something else all day and on the car ride home we'd share. Telecommuting on the other hand sucked due to the...."


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