Monday, February 28, 2011

Happy Birthday to Blog!

Beta Dad, the blog, is one year old today!  

It's just starting to lurch around on its ungainly legs, but will require grownups to hold its hand and clean up its poop for a long time yet.

I'm going to make everyone uncomfortable for a minute by being as earnest as I can bear to be.  

I'm pretty stoked about how much cool stuff has happened with this blog in just a year.  I started out not knowing anything about the blogging game.  I felt like I could write something that people would enjoy, but I had no idea how to build an audience.  So I started flailing around, looking for kindred spirits that might click on my avatar if I commented on their blog, occasionally reading an article about how to develop readership, and sometimes straight up asking other bloggers for advice.

And little by little, I managed to weasel my way into a number of different blogging communities.  

I know..."communities."  Cheesy, right?  I was thinking about that word today.  It doesn't take very long to realize that blogging, like high school and everything that comes after it, involves cliques, rivalries, feuds, and petty squabbles.  But what community doesn't include all that stuff?  Just because it's not perfect doesn't make it NOT a community.

But the drama isn't what was remarkable for me (although I have to acknowledge that the little bit of drama I was involved in back in October probably accounts for a large cohort of my readers).  I have been blown away by how much support I've gotten from a bunch of the bigshot bloggers I started following around like an annoying kid brother when I got started on this project.  I'm not going to embarrass anyone by calling them out--it's not like I won an Oscar or anything--but you know who you are, and I'm incredibly grateful and a little bemused.

As much as the established bloggers have helped me get a foothold in the daddyblog niche, and encouraged me with feedback, it's really the comments I get from those of you who tune in faithfully, apparently just for your own amusement, that make me want to keep writing even when it starts to feel like I'm spinning my wheels.  I'm really tired right now, and probably shouldn't write about how I feel about my readers, since I will certainly make an ass of myself.  So, like, you guys are super-cool and stuff.  For those of you who are bloggers, I wish I had more time to read all your blogs faithfully and give you the support you've given me.  I'll try to be better about that.  

Now that I'm thanking people, I don't know where to stop.  Also, this is getting speechy.  I'm cringing.

My wife is the best.  Even when I spend way too much time pecking away at the laptop, laughing at other people's posts, and mumbling as I write my own, she either never gets annoyed, or never lets on that she is.  Either way, I can't believe how lucky I am (not just because she tolerates my blogging either).  Sometimes I act all holier than thou about guys who play golf or go fishing instead of spending time with their families; but honestly my blogging habit is pretty serious.  I don't let it interfere with spending time with my kids (much), but it's kind of all I do when it's just the wife and me who are conscious.  Plus I always have to fill her in with what all my imaginary friends are up to, and she never tells me to shut up.  I just hope I would be as supportive if she developed some weird obsession.  You know, if it were productive and creative and enriching.  

Also, my real life friends (the ones who read my blog--the rest of them are dead to me [psyche]) and family are the best.  I'm not even going to tell you the nice thing my mom said on the phone the other day.  I might incorporate it into my masthead though.  It's just about the weirdest thing in the world to have IRL friends tell you how much they enjoy your writing.  It's a lot easier to deal with hearing that from imaginary friends.  But ultimately, it's a good awkward.

Okay, I'm done.  I have to get up in a couple hours and drive up to the mountains and take the kids sledding.  So if I don't respond to your comments right away, it's because I can't get a good signal on my iPhone as I'm hurtling down the mountainside with the kids in my lap.


And then of course there's the link.  I've got a post up at DadCentric this morning.  It's about how kids must have a really distorted vision of how animals live outside the world of books, movies, stuffed toys, and zoos.  Please to be reading.      



  1. Only a year? Never would have guessed. I would have sworn you were an old pro at this stuff. Congrats on the milestone & have fun!

  2. Well, as far as oct. I have not a clue... I know for me blogging is just for me... that is what I liked about Blogger.. Some folks I know have other sites and those sites are for popularity, drama, ego stroking.. What I like about this site, u can write to your heart's content and if no one reads it, its fine... Its kinda like an open diary/journal...Those other sites I shy away from cuz of the drama seekers, attention whores, whatever... I like reading your posts because u remind me of my neighbor who took care of his fraternal twins and older daughter... U guys who are the 'mom' are to be commended and no I hope u aren't blushing... You earned that compliment.. U gave me confidence that there are men who can step up to the plate and deal w/whatever comes their way...

  3. Any excuse for ice cream and jelly BD.

  4. Did you win an Academy award? This speech sounds kinda familiar after last night...

    'Grats on the success, man. You have a great writing voice and I hope you keep on doing your thing.

  5. It's customary to announce who designed the gown you're wearing when giving such a speech.

    Congratulations, rock star.

  6. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I click on your links mainly to see your banner, then because you're one of my favorite buddies, and lastly because you're wildly entertaining.

    You can easily mix those three reasons up any which way you choose!

  7. Congratulations! Happy Birthday! All of the above!

  8. Again, not surprised one bit, but it's pretty awesome what you've done here in only a year.

    Favorite memories, as long as we're nostalgiaing (yes. shut up.): Russian revolving door, guitar vlogs, your construction site dog pal, bb and c at the farmers market, Russian dog...

  9. Happy Blog Birthday!
    Thank you for entertaining us with your exploits, which make my day every day!

    BTW, why Butterbean and Cobra?

  10. Congrats. It's fun reading about your parenting exploits. Especially because when I picture you I see an eighth-grader at Robinson Junior High who looks like Sid Vicious, sculpting bicycles out of wood.

  11. happy birthday! I honestly didn't know your blog was so young. you're making me feel old. heh.

  12. Aw, happy birthday daddy! Oh wait, that sounds a little creepy... :)

  13. Happy Blogaversary.

    1? I coulda swore you weren't a day over 10 months.

    You must be moisturizing, right?

    Oh, and word verification today: ducheeda


  14. Congratulations on the one year! You're certainly successful and it should be celebrated! I think your wife is fine. Any relationship, in my opinion, shouldn't be based on reciprocity. I mean, it's an important part, but just because I buy you a gift doesn't mean you have to do the same for me. I'm sure she's happy just hearing how happy YOU are. And I don't like it when bloggers I read only read my blogs because I'm following them. I don't follow bloggers hoping to increase my circulation. I don't care about that at all. I read bloggers because their writings help me get through the day. So don't feel like my subscription to you is an onus where you have to do the same for me. Be proud of what you have and don't worry too much about your petty followers :) (well I can only speak for myself in saying "petty").

  15. Congrats to you! I had no idea people were starting blogs in 2010.

  16. Bravo, BD! Hope we'll get lots more years reading you. And I will have to remember where you are posting these days. You have an Excel spreadsheet I can download, right?

    I always come off super snarky when I comment. Shit. I really want to say: You're fantastic. Mean it.

  17. Happy Birthday! I can't believe you're only one. You're very advanced for your age.

  18. Happy blogoversary man. I can't believe you live in a place where you have to wake up early to drive to the mountains to go sledding.

  19. Hello Beta Dad. Happy Birthday.
    I have just started blogging. I've had fun reading your blogs.
    Thank you for writing them.
    Anita Spero

  20. @Vinny--Thanks, pal!

    @KBF--Thanks...I did blush a little bit.

    @Jack--That's a pretty good idea. Don't mind if I do.

    @Frank--Thanks! I always laugh at your comments and read them to my wife.

    @Elly Lou--It's Frederick's of Hollywood, if you must know. From the outlet. Thanks! I'm still up for the duet. I think we just have to do it when we're in the same city some day. Going to any conferences soon?

    @Erin--Thanks, buddy!


    @Steamy--Thanks. You're the best.

    @Enviro Girl--Thanks. Have you asked me that before?

    Here's the short version: When Cobra was just a couple months old, she would focus intently on my arm for several seconds, and then...STRIKE! Like a cobra! (Unfortunately, she's still a little too aggressive with her mouth, and now she has a bunch of teeth.) Also, when we did tummy time with her, she would lift her chest and legs off the floor, which is the yoga pose called "Cobra."

    "Butterbean" evolved from "Butter Britches," which is what I called her when she was an infant. That was inspired by the odor of her poop when she was on a breastmilk only diet. Aren't you glad you asked? Also, she was kind of round as an infant, and that made me think of a guy I used to work with that every one called "Butterbean." (His real name was James Moneymaker. No shit.)

    @Alice--I also enjoy thinking of you as an eighth grader with a mohawk! Funny--that would hardly turn anyone's head these days. I can't believe we used to get beat up because of our hairdos.

    @Andygirl--hahaha. I would apologize for making you feel old if I didn't know that I'm about 10 years older than you!

    @Veg--No no no...I like it!

    @Leila--Thanks for the kind words, and for letting me off the hook ;)

    @Muskrat--I just got a MySpace page. You should check it out!

    @James--Yes. I massage my Blogger dashboard with the adrenal fluid of pygmy goats every day. Works wonders. Also, I use Grecian Formula.

    @Nicole--I don't think you sound all that snarky. Maybe sassy. I really appreciate all of your feedback, and it's been fun chatting with you over the past few months.

    @Nari--It's all the flashcards and Baby Einstein videos that have me testing out of my age group.

    @H-Man--Thanks! I didn't really have to get up early for the sledding. It's only an hour away. It's just that I stay up way to late and those damn kids get up so early.

    @Anita--Thanks, and best of luck with your blogging!

  21. It did surprise me that you've only been going a year. It's also encouraging for those of us who are only a few months or so into it and look to you as a seasoned pro.

    Best wishes for the next year, Beta Dad

  22. Happy Blogoversary!

    I, for one, am glad about that October drama because I got to know you and a few other bloggers as a result. I'm also glad it's over, if I'm being completely honest.

    Anyway, thanks for keeping it real (what does that even mean) and here's to another year of blogging excellence!

  23. Happy, Happy Birthday to Beta Dad...Really funny stuff!!

  24. Only a year old? Holy shittola batman! Then there's hope for me yet.
    ps. best banner in the biz

  25. Happy blogoversary. Looking forward to more.

  26. You're welcome. That's from all of us.

    Congrats on the big oh-one!


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