Mostly, the kids and I stayed out of her hair while she and her sisters and her mom went to brunch and got massages.
|The girls, staying out of Mom's hair|
Last week, I had been talking to an editor from a website I'll probably start contributing to about writing my inaugural post there on "The Problem with Mother's Day." Mother's Day has the same problems many holidays do: the fact that commercial aspects have drowned out the original intent of the holiday to the point that it becomes onerous to participate in it for a lot of people, for example.
But my argument for the piece I pitched to this editor was that the bigger problem with Mother's Day is all the attendant rhetoric that reinforces gender stereotypes and does not advance the cause of equal parenting.
Alas, I was too busy to write the article by the deadline, and frankly, I just wasn't feeling it. I had not been inundated by outdated images of family life with Mom as the competent martyr and Dad as the guy who makes up for his shortcomings by buying her some shiny bauble, as I would have needed to be in order to position myself for the Mother's Day rant.
I knew that if I wrote the article, I would have to do some research so I could find some evidence that supported my thesis and then structure it so it looked like I had become outraged by the ubiquitous sexism and then decided to write the piece. And that's kind of bullshit. I had no doubt that I could find some stupid TV commercials to pick apart if I tried, but my heart just wasn't in it. It may have also been the appeals from some mom bloggers I know who said, in the midst of a bunch of trumped-up controversy surrounding the weirdly salacious Time Magazine "Are You Mom Enough" cover, "Can't Mother's Day just be about celebrating moms this year?" In any case, I didn't write the article, and nothing about Mother's Day got my hackles up.
My hackles remained at rest until I made the mistake of looking at Facebook right before going to bed last night. There was a post on my feed from the Babble.com page that said the following: